Narcissistic Abuse in Relationships Overview

“They are aware of what they are doing to others – but they do not care.” -Sam Vaknin, Malignant Self Love: Narcissism Revisited For many victims of abuse, by the time they realize their partner has a serious problem they have begun to feel as if they are going crazy. They doubt themselves and their […]

Relationships: Understanding & Exploring Chemistry

“Love is not the perfect match, love is the connection between two people.” – Unarine Ramaru When you meet someone new there may be an initial attraction or ‘spark’ which encourages you to explore the possibilities and find out if there is genuine chemistry. Honesty is always the best policy; a potential partner can’t really […]

Abusive Manipulation & Brainwashing Techniques: How Abusers Seek to Control their Victims by Nigel Beckles

“The abuser’s mood changes are especially perplexing. He can be a different person from day to day, or even from hour to hour. At times he is aggressive and intimidating, his tone harsh, insults spewing from his mouth, ridicule dripping from him like oil from a drum. When he’s in this mode, nothing she says […]

A Dangerously Toxic Flaw -Alcohol Addiction by Nigel Beckles

“Not feeling is no replacement for reality. Your problems today are still your problems tomorrow” ― Larry Michael Dredla An individual can put themselves at serious emotional and physical risk by remaining in a relationship with someone who has a Toxic Flaw. These people often have deep psychological issues or cause their partners extreme distress […]

Emotionally Abusive People – Red Flags! by Nigel Beckles

“Emotional abuse is a devastating, debilitating heart and soul mutilation. The deepest lasting wound with any abuse is the emotional wound.” – Robert Burney, Author and Speaker While women are more frequently victimized, men are also abused especially verbally and emotionally, although they can suffer physical abuse as well. There are not any obvious signs […]

Are You In a Codependent Relationship?

Men and women often stay in a co-dependent relationship as a result of being programmed with dysfunctional beliefs about how healthy relationships should be conducted. Sadly, often they have not observed healthy relationship models during their formative years and subconsciously repeat similar patterns of behavior. In other cases both partners believe the other holds the […]

Relationships & Self Awareness

Cultivating self-awareness is one of the major factors that can help you to avoid making a huge mistake when making relationship choices. Lacking self awareness means a person doesn’t really know who they truly are at their core; they don’t know their principles, standards requirements and values which makes it very easy to lose themselves […]

The Abusive Relationship Cycle

“The guarantee of safety in a battering relationship can never be based upon a promise from the perpetrator, no matter how heartfelt. Rather, it must be based upon the self-protective capability of the victim. Until the victim has developed a detailed and realistic contingency plan and has demonstrated her ability to carry it out, she […]

Mr. Unreliable

“A doubtful friend is worse than a certain enemy. Let a man be one thing or the other, and we then know how to meet him.” – Aesop, Aesop’s Fables Reliability builds trust. Whether it’s a relationship with your partner, family or friends, you should be able to rely on the people in your life. […]

Are You Dating Mr. Control Freak? by Nigel Beckles

The warning signs of a Control Freak can be insidious and very subtle because you may not notice he has control issues at the beginning. The first few months of any new relationship usually goes through the ‘honeymoon’ phase and by the time it becomes obvious a partner has control issues you will probably be […]