Relationship Patterns

“No matter how trivial the recollections seem, note them down, and try searching for a pattern in them.” ― Dr Prem Jagyasi Your past experiences are a part of your emotional programming and any emotional damage you are carrying around is not just going to disappears or sort itself out of its own accord.  People often say […]

Dating a Narcissist

“Narcissists are consumed with maintaining a shallow false self to others. They’re emotionally crippled souls that are addicted to attention. Because of this they use a multitude of games, in order to receive adoration. Sadly, they are the most ungodly of God’s creations because they don’t show remorse for their actions, take steps to make […]

Ghosted in a Relationship? Why You Should Be Grateful

“Never make someone else the main character in your own story.” ― J.M. Darhower, Ghosted For most people relationships end with painful conversations which are usually difficult acknowledging the relationship isn’t working out. These are never easy discussions which is why some people send a breakup text instead – however, some people also ‘ghost.’ ‘Ghosting’ is not new but […]

Passive-Aggressive Defense and Attack Tactics

“You cannot become a peacemaker without communication. Silence is a passive aggressive grenade thrown by insecure people that want war, but they don’t want the accountability of starting it.” – Shannon L. Alder, Author Guilt trips:  Emotional abusers are often experts at making others feel uncomfortable or guilty, behaviour designed to make the victim doubt themselves or […]

Abuse & Intermittent Reinforcement: A Powerful Tool of Manipulation

“When an abuser/controller shows the victim some small kindness, even though it is to the abusers benefit as well, the victim interprets that small kindness as a positive trait of the captor.” – Dr. Joe Carver, Love and Stockholm Syndrome Avoiding the abuse of Intermittent Reinforcement involves maintaining healthy personal boundaries consistently. This can often be […]

Generational Parental Abuse That Damages Children

“Fear of breaking family loyalty is one of the greatest stumbling blockages to recovery. Yet, until we admit certain things we would rather excuse or deny, we cannot truly begin to put the past in the past, and leave it there once and for all. Unless we do that, we cannot even begin to think […]

The Challenges of Getting to a Relationship Commitment

“There’s a difference between interest and commitment. When you’re interested in doing something, you do it only when it’s convenient. When you’re committed to something, you accept no excuses, only results.”  ― Ken Blanchard Everyone has some commitment issues because making a commitment, especially to another person, can be frightening. Making a commitment to someone else […]

The Relationship Commitment Phobic

Most people have commitment fears and conflicts to varying degrees. It is how these fears and conflicts are managed that makes the difference between having a real opportunity for building a solid, enduring relationship and destroying every potentially viable partnership. The mindset of worry anxiety can be considered to be someone living in the future. […]

The Narcissist & Cheating

A Narcissist will often set up a ‘Love Triangle’ using very specific masks they apply to the process: 1) The Current Partner:  The Narcissist will actually go out of their way to ensure you know about their infidelities to make you feel insecure but will never actually admit to cheating. This may involve openly flirting […]

How Parents Can Influence Your Relationship Choices

The adult you are today is a direct byproduct of the relationships observed and experienced during your childhood. Whatever you have learnt about negotiating, intimate relating, intimacy and power along with your expectations in terms of relationship fulfillment are modeled on the early relationships you witnessed as a child. The relationships we have with our […]